Welcome to my page for my husband, Ross!
Like I stated on the main page, Ross and I met online in 1995. We were both on a mailing list for a tv show called 'My So-called Life' - an absolutely amazing tv show starring Claire Danes and Jared Leto that only lasted one season. I joined the mailing list in late 1995 when Operation Life Support (the project to keep MSCL going) had already ended. Ross has joined the list shortly before I had.
We briefly started chatting in 1995. However, I left university at that time, didn't have a computer, and Ross was going through some moving issues of his own.
In April of 1996 I bought a computer and re-joined the list. A month later, I was upset about something that was happening with my ex-boyfriend and that was when Ross wrote to me again. He introduced himself by stating that we had the same birthday, which he had remembered from 1995. I, of course, remembered him anyway as I had always felt there was something special about him even in our early conversations. So, we started chatting, and over the coming months our talks became more and more personal, more emails were sent to each other. We even would go onto IRC to talk to each other most nights.
All of my 'real life' friends obviously knew about Ross. I even had a boyfriend at the time whom I'd been dating for a month or two. I spoke to my friends so often about Ross that they started saying that I was in love with him. I thought, how ridiculous, there is no such thing as love online, and left it at that. Until one night when I went out drinking. My best friend and I got into a discussion about Ross again, and she said again that I was in love with him. I realized that night that it was true, and went home and emailed Ross all about it! LOL
Oh, the horror! I was horrified at what I had done, but there was no way to take it back once it was sent. I even pretended to myself for awhile that it hadn't happened. And what was worse was that Ross didn't seem to share my feelings at all! Or, at least that is what he told me. Still, I broke up with my boyfriend - telling him that I wasn't ready for a long-term relationship. Which was true as I had just broken up with my long-term boyfriend a couple months before that.
It took about a week or so where Ross and I basically avoided each other, when he wrote to me and said that he thought he was in love with me too, that he had missed me, and that if this wasn't love, then he didn't know what would be. So we agreed to 'date' online and our new years resolution for 1997 was to be able to meet each other!
In January of 1997 I was offered a nanny position in Wales, starting in March of 1997. I jumped at the chance as it was so close to where Ross lived! So off I went... Ross picked me up from the airport, and boy was it scary! Ross says that I looked beautiful, but after about 10-12 hours in airports and on the plane, I seriously doubt it! In any case, it was so good to see each other - we spent the first hour or two just holding each other. Eventually we got going and over the course of the next couple of weeks - on my days off from being a nanny - I met Ross's family and got to visit different places in England and Wales. It was a really great time... Ross and I were pretty carefree and happy.
Unfortunately I had to leave the UK in September, 1997. That was hard... so hard that Ross decided to move to the USA in December, 1997! We lived with my mom for three months, which really didn't work out. I got pregnant and was sick all the time, and it was just a really horrible time dealing with all kinds of issues. So, we decided to move back to the UK for a year to have the baby and get stuff sorted out. Ross could work in the UK, but not the USA, so on February 27, 1998 we got married and in March, we moved to the UK. Let me also say that we were engaged before I got pregnant, so we didn't get married because of that - we got married because we loved each other and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together.
We ended up staying in the UK for nine years, and didn't move back to the USA until October/November of 2006. Over the years, we've had our ups and downs as well, but we are just as much as - if not more - in love than ever. So, to conclude, I love my husband and he loves me, and we love being married :) As of February 27, 2009, we have been married for eleven years!
